 Family, pals can be saboteurs
We all know that there are many stumbling blocks on the path to weight loss and weight management: hunger, cravings, time, money, etc. One that tops the list for many is sabotage by friends and family.
Much of the time, the saboteurs don’t even realize what they are doing. They want what is best for you, but don’t have a real understanding of what your needs are. The key to coping with this situation is communication.
Let’s look at some common situations and how we might resolve them.
First you have the well-meaning person who has just made your favorite comfort food. Wow! Talk about temptation. Take a very small portion, a bite or two, and thank them. Be sure to enjoy it. Eat those bites slowly and savor them. Then, explain that you are working really hard to improve your eating habits and your health and just can’t afford more than that right now. Tell them that you appreciate their efforts as well as their support on your journey.
Then there are people that will say: “Oh, just one bite won’t hurt.” But we all know that sometimes it does. One bite leads to another and another. I had to talk to my mother about this issue at the beginning of my journey. I explained to her that it’s too easy for me to give in once I start, so I need to not start. I told her that all of the little “bites” can quickly add up to a meal. She understood and I thanked her for her support and understanding.
A rough one is the family member in your own home who brings in tempting food. I am a strict advocate of the idea that a home needs to be a safe place, away from temptation. However, many family members just cannot understand how very difficult it can be for us food addicts. Remember that no one was ever harmed by living in a home that had only nutritional food in it. So, if you need to make changes that affect the way the whole family eats, then they will benefit too. Anyone who is old enough to complain is also old enough to get their own junk food elsewhere. Explain to your family how hard it is for you to have those foods around. I sometimes suggest to people that they would understand why an alcoholic wouldn’t want to have alcohol in the house. When they see it that way, there is often a better understanding of the situation.
Whenever possible, try to communicate ahead of time. If you know a situation is coming up in which someone is likely to tempt you, let them know ahead of time that you are making some life changes and would appreciate their help.
Remember to try to keep a good attitude. Communicate your needs in an honest and caring way. Explain why you are making these changes and always thank them for their support. |
